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By Zachary ZaneNovember 11 2015 / 11:37 AM
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Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based sex and dating expert, columnist, activist, and author of 'Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto' and co-author of 'Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever.'
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Sometimes we live in our little queer bubble and forget what’s going on in the rest of the straight world. Having straight friends reconnects us to the rest of society.
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