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11 Sex Tips for Guys Who Just Came Out of the Closet
A few pointers for people who are just starting to explore their sexuality!
Right after coming out as gay/bi, the idea of having sex with another man can be nerve-wracking. The mechanics, while simple, aren’t necessarily intuitive. It also can be tough to really connect to another guy sexually right after sashaying out of the closet. So let's resolve to explore having better and more meaningful sex. With that in mind, here are 11 sex tips for guys who’ve just come out as queer.
1. There will always be cute guys
Cute guys are a dime a dozen. There will always be cute guys, so don’t be upset if one rejects you. Seriously, it's not the end of the world! Don’t do anything stupid just to have sex with one. Relax. You have the rest of your life to sleep with cute guys.
2. Use condoms (even if you're on PrEP)
If you just came out and are just starting to get comfortable with your sexuality, the last thing you'll want to be doing is getting an STD or STI. Honestly, it’s just going to bum you out and make you never want to have sex again. So wear condoms. (Even if you’re on PrEP!)
3. Tell him what you’re into beforehand
Sex shouldn’t be a guessing game. If you’re into something, let him know beforehand that you like X, Y, Z, and it would really turn you on if he did that to you. That's one of the (few) things that's great about apps like Grindr. You can explicitly state what you're into before meeting up without any judgement.
4. Be vocal during sex
In addition to saying what you're into before things start heating up, you should also be vocal about what you like during sex. If that position isn’t doing anything for you, tell him you want to change positions. He isn’t a mind reader. Let him know what’s up!
5. Have sex with guys who are outside your normal “preference”
We all have men who we are attracted to and not attracted to. I’m not saying that you should sleep with men you’re not attracted to, but I am saying that you should broaden your horizons. Often, societal norms dictate to us what's attractive. If we're able to break away from societal standards of beauty, it opens us up (metaphorically and physically) to a wider range of sexual and romantic partners.
6. Be vers
It’s 2019. Being a top or bottom only is so passé. Do it all. Be a millennial, renaissance man! Besides, being vers makes you a better lover because you're aware of the mechanics of both types of sex.
7. You can say “no” anytime before or during sex
You can always say no anytime before or during sex without an ounce of shame. If you don’t feel comfortable, you have a right to stop having sex at anytime. Is it awkward to kick guys out of your house? Yes, it is, but it is worth the awkwardness. If you're not into it, and he's being aggressive, tell him to GTFO.
8. Figure out your own method of cleaning your butt
There are plenty of ways to get a deep clean. Figure out if a douche (or some other way) is the right way for you! While I douche, I've heard of some folks using ear syringes to clean out because it's less forceful.
9. Never feel embarrassed, ashamed, or awkward about asking a guy’s status
You should never get uncomfortable or feel bad for asking a guy what his status is, as well as asking him to use a condom. In the era of PrEP, there is definitely a little bit of condom-shaming, but while you shouldn't judge them for not wearing a condom, they shouldn't judge you for wanting to wear one.
10. Use lube
Lube is your best friend. The more lube the better. You want to be turning that bed of yours into a Slip 'N Slide! Additionally, it's important to see what type of lube feels best for you. Some guys prefer water-based, whereas others prefer silicone or a hybrid mix of both.
11. Explore your kinks
We all have some form of kink. Something a little more exciting that we’re into. Explore them now. There’s literally no reason to wait. And no matter how "weird" you think your kink is, there are literally thousands (if not millions) of guys who have the same one. You're definitely not alone!
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Zachary Zane
Zachary Zane is a writer, YouTube influencer, and activist whose work focuses on (bi)sexuality, gender, dating, relationships, and identity politics. Check out his YouTube channel here.
Zachary Zane is a writer, YouTube influencer, and activist whose work focuses on (bi)sexuality, gender, dating, relationships, and identity politics. Check out his YouTube channel here.