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13 Non-Sexual Reasons You Should Date A Kinkster

13 Non-Sexual Reasons You Should Date A Kinkster

13 Non-Sexual Reasons You Should Date A Kinkster
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There's a lot more to kinky people than you think.

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There's a lot more to kinky people than you think

13 Non-Sexual Reasons You Should Date A Kinkster

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There’s a personality type that often accompanies someone kinky. A personality type that is open, understanding, introspective, and daring, making them the perfect partner.

Here are 13 reasons you should date someone kinky that have nothing to do with sex (though that's a good reason, too!).

They're open to new experiences

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Kinky people are open to making new connections, collecting experiences, and trying novel activities that push the boundaries.

They're willing to trust others

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Trust is the most necessary component of any BDSM-type encounter. Without trust, neither you nor he will ever be able to enjoy it.

They know how to have a good time

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They're always going to be the life of the party, and everyone will love to see the two of you together.

They're willing to be vulnerable

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Kinky men and women are willing to be vulnerable. They’re willing to put themselves on the line and be exposed. Naked. Both literally and figuratively.

They'll always have something to talk about

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You might not like what they have to say, and some of their stories may feel a bit wild, but one thing's for sure, they'll always have an interesting story to tell.

They have serious introspection

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People who engage in kinky sex are thinkers. They’re self-aware. They evaluate why they do things. They question who they are and what they want to be. They critically challenge what society has deemed taboo and decide for themselves what’s right and wrong.

They want more out of life

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Kinky people are tired of the monotony of everyday life. They’re tired with their 9-5 job. They’re tired with daily bullshit. They want something more out of life. They’re not satisfied with what they have and are willing to work hard to make their lives better.

They can tolerate pain and humiliation

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It takes a certain type of person to be able to handle both emotional and physical pain. A resilient person who is not only strong-willed, but also secure enough in himself to handle emotionally intense experiences.

They have a better understanding of relational dynamics

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Power dynamics manifest themselves in every relationship, whether we like it or not. Instead of sweeping them under the rug, kinky individuals acknowledge their existence, and use them to strengthen their relationship, as opposed to underhandedly manipulate their partner.

They're adventurous

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Never a dull moment. They’re willing to take risks.

They love harder

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Kinky folks are intense and that intensity carries over to the person they love.

They prioritize pleasure

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Not in a purely hedonic way. They understand the complexities of pleasure, and how it can be a very fulfilling component to a well-rounded life.

They're smarter

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Because they’re more introspective, inquisitive, and challenging of society, kinky people tend to be more self-aware, and just plain smarter.

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Zachary Zane

Zachary Zane is a writer, YouTube influencer, and activist whose work focuses on (bi)sexuality, gender, dating, relationships, and identity politics. Check out his YouTube channel here.

Zachary Zane is a writer, YouTube influencer, and activist whose work focuses on (bi)sexuality, gender, dating, relationships, and identity politics. Check out his YouTube channel here.

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Andrew J. Stillman

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Andrew J. Stillman is a freelance writer and yoga instructor exploring the world. Check him out at andrewjstillman.com or follow him @andrewjstillman on all the things.

Andrew J. Stillman is a freelance writer and yoga instructor exploring the world. Check him out at andrewjstillman.com or follow him @andrewjstillman on all the things.