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Book Excerpt: Mind-Blowing Sex: A Woman's Guide by Diana Cage

As part of our effort to profile more authors within the LGBT community, we present Diana Cage. Author, editor, blogger, and media personality Cage is the former host of The Diana Cage Show, a wildly popular, no-holds-barred nightly talk show on Sirius XM. Her books include Girl Meets Girl: A Dating Survival Guide, Box Lunch: The Layperson’s Guide to Cunnilingus, Bottoms Up: Writing About Sex, and the groundbreaking On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex.

Up Close with the Iconic Holly Hughes: Video Interview

SheWired’s friend Diana Cage chats with iconic lesbian / feminist performance artist Holly Hughes about her views on  same-sex marriage, feminism, her button pushing work including The Well of Horniness and her new show Let Them Eat Cake!  Hughes became part of the national dialogue in the early nineties when she was one of four artists to receive a grant from the National Endowment for the Arts that was later rescinded under fire from the moral majority and ultra-conservatism of the time.

Loose 'Rules' for Finding a Date Online

Lesbian sex guru and writer Diana Cage offers advice on finding a date online. 'How on earth did any one ever meet anyone before the internet? With online dating sites, social networking sites and the millions of ways we interact online everyday it’s no wonder hooking up online is so easy. In fact, the main disadvantage to cruising for tricks online is that the amount of people looking for love in the internets it can be a little overwhelming. You’ll need a few ways to narrow down your search. Going with an online matchmaking site or something as simple as Craigslist is a good place to start.'

Flirting for Dummies!

Flirting is an essential tool for getting dates. Flirting is like social lubricant, it makes everything run smoother. Flirting is how you get people to do things for you, to notice you and to like you. Flirting with people makes them feel good. Flirting gets you attention, dates, lovers, friends and most other things you need. Writer and lesbian sexpert Diana Cage offers advice on how to pick up girls, because as she says, 'If no one ever got up the nerve to make the first move, no one would ever get laid.'

Good Communication Means Good Sex

Lesbian sexpert Diana Cage offers up advice on how to communicate around that often prickly subject of sex. The more secure you feel in your relationship the easier it will be to talk about your sex life. Many times we resist new things because we feel threatened by them, when we might actually be inclined to agree if we felt safe. But to feel safe, you need to learn how to communicate. It might be daunting in the beginning, but there are some rules you can follow to make it a little easier.

Bringing New Ideas to the Bedroom

The most common complaint I hear from long term couples is that after several years their lesbian sex lives either get less creative or even dry up completely. If this has happened to you, don’t despair. With some honest, direct communication and a willingness to be vulnerable, you can totally keep things just as hot as they were when you met. If you’ve always fantasized about getting a little kinky, experimenting with bondage or maybe even having a three-way or attending a sex party, it’s time to talk to your significant other.

Sexytime Travel Tips

I just had the worst ever trip through JFK security and it made me think it might be time for a refresher on traveling with sexytime items. Every seasoned security officer has seen his or her fair share of “massagers,” but it doesn’t mean they wont stop and question you about an item if they can’t ascertain its use. As a well-adjusted sex-loving human, it’s your right to pack anything you like. But if huffy security guards make your blood pressure rise, follow these tips.

Throw a Sex Party

My other job when I’m not a slave to Shewired is loitering at Velvetpark, a lesbian dating site and social network run by my pal Grace Moon. It’s Pride weekend here in New York, and the Velvetpark team has partnered with Submit, one of the local women’s play  parties, to throw a kinky speed dating event after the dyke march. I think it’s going to be a blast and if you don’t have a sex party to go to in your town then maybe you should consider throwing your own?

The Celesbian Makeout Snooze

Have you noticed that no one cares when lady celebs kiss each other anymore? Miley Cyrus kissed a girl and everyone was bored. Even proclaiming leztastic crushes has fallen out of vogue. Right now, the lez crush is beyond ubiquitous. No celebrity is complete without one. Washed-up stars stuck in reality show hell are scratching at the pages of Out magazine, dying to confess their attraction to Drew Barrymore. Ingénues vying for roles in Woody Allen films want you to know that they'd love to make out with Chloe Sevigny if only she'd give them the chance. The media might love it, but frankly, if your face doesn't smell like pussy, I'm bored.

Sexercising for Sexcess

Lesbian culture and sex guru Diana Cage explains the phenomenon of "coregasaming," or rather, having and orgasm while doing crunches. So, at least that's one good reason to get to the gym!

Courtney Love's Sex Tips

Lesbian culture and sex whiz Diana Cage takes a nod from Courtney Love's sexual confidence. Aside from learning that the Hole frontwoman is good in bed, does her Kegels and banged Kate Moss there is something to be taken away from admission of Court's sexual prowess. Here's Diana with tips on boosting your sexual self-confidence.

Vagina Beauty with Diana Cage

SheWired's resident lesbian culture and sex guru Diana Cage imparts vagina beauty tips bestowed upon her by comic Jessica Halem. Among the tips are conditioning the bush and doing Kegels!

Liza Minnelli�s Call to Action

On Saturday May 1st PFLAG honored Liza Minnelli at the Straight for Equality Awards Gala. Liza! (don’t you think her name should always be followed by an exclamation point?) was presented with the 2010 Straight for Equality in Entertainment Award, recognizing her lifelong role as a gay icon—oh sorry, I meant Straight Ally of the LGBT community.

Burning Questions

Darlings, it seems you have some burning questions! These questions about sex, dating, and relationships are piling up in my inbox. I get it, dating is hard. It's a painful, miserable, lonely activity and I have no idea why we even do it. Oh wait, yes I do. Because we want to get laid. Well, here's some tried and true advice.

The Gender of Shoes

My ex is butch. She might be a prissy French teacher who spends all her time reading Baudelaire but she’s butch nonetheless. Certainly too butch for Mary Janes. But am I a jerk for thinking she’s wearing girly shoes? What’s going on here? She’s still butch.  Her shoes don’t change her gender, she’s like half a dude. She could be wearing Manolo Blahniks and still be butch

Leave Shiloh Alone

Writer and lesbian culture guru Diana Cage talks about how Shiloh Jolie-Pitt, spawn of Brangelina, has been dressing in a less-than-appropriately-feminine manner than tabloid editors and their audiences deem appropriate for a 3 1/2 year old girl.

Beyond Vajazzling

Writer and lesbian culture guru Diana Cage talks about vagina decor. Vajazzling, which is just bedazzling your vagina with stick-on Swarovski crystals, is a suddenly popular addition to the lexicon thanks to Jennifer Love Hewitt's recent overshare.

Haiti and Hateful Rhetoric

Writer and lesbian culture guru Diana Cage explains how you can make a donation to the Haiti earthquake relief via the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender organization the Rainbow World Fund. But she goes a step further in elucidating how the Pat Robertson and Rush Limbaugh use tragedy for political and personal gain. She encourages those of us with brains not to tune out the right wing nuts including Bill O'Reilly, Sarah Palin, Rush Limbaugh, Michael Savage and Michelle Malkin.

Is It OK to Tweet Tragedy?

Writer, sexpert and lesbian culture guru Diana Cage wonders what Twitter is for anyway? Last week I sent out tweets about my cold, I mentioned the film my girlfriend and I were watching while I was recovering, I send out tweets about these columns. If we're using twitter, facebook, tumblr, and blogs to make our personal lives public is there a line that we aren’t supposed to cross?

Put Your Lips Together and Blow

Writer, sexpert and lesbian culture guru Diana Cage is sick of politics this holiday season. So rather, than wax on about the state of the world in relationship to gays, she's opted to focus on something rewarding, like kissing. Cage indulges in the art of the kiss, or at least in the art of how to make it until the morning after.