Flirting is an essential tool for getting dates. Flirting is like social lubricant, it makes everything run smoother. Flirting is how you get people to do things for you, to notice you and to like you. Flirting with people makes them feel good. Flirting gets you attention, dates, lovers, friends and most other things you need.
Flattery Will Get You Everywhere
Flatter the object of your attention. Compliment her appearance, her intelligence, her singing voice, whatever it is you notice about her. A long slow glance and a sweet smile will get someone’s attention. But don’t ogle—you’ll seem like a perv.
Body Talk
Leaning in toward someone with open arms says, “I like you.” Arms across your chest and facing away from someone says, “Stay away.” Being well groomed gives you confidence and helps you to project attractiveness. Don’t be timid. Approach a woman with confidence and start a conversation. Listen to her as she speaks. Ask her questions about herself. Small talk isn’t really all that bad once you get the hang of it. It’s a great door opener. It helps you make connections, meet people, get dates, network and improve your social life.
In the neighborhood
Sick of walking past that hot girl from the gym every day on the way home from work? Well, don’t just walk by pretending not to notice her. Stop and say hi. She’s probably just as shy as you are and will welcome the introduction. Try these openers:
“Hey don’t you work out at my gym?”
“Do you live on this street? I see you around pretty often.”
“Do you know where there’s a mail box (or post office, gas station, medical marijuana seller)?”
“Hey, I like your T-shirt.”
“Your hair looks good.”
“Do you think it’s going to rain?”
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Hang out at the bookstore
You are browsing the new releases section when suddenly you see this hot tattooed babe flipping through the collected works of Tom of Finland. Quick, what do you say?
“I love his work. Have you seen (insert name of a similar artist here)?”
“Oh, I own that book. It’s wonderful.”
“What’s that you are looking at? It seems interesting.”
Or the grocery store
You are shopping for Lean Cuisine and Meals for One when you spot a shaggy-haired cutie in the produce aisle. What do you say?
“Do you have any idea how to cook eggplant?”
“Do you know where the wine aisle is?”
There’s always the bar
There she is at the jukebox, the lady you’ve been admiring all evening. Your beer is nearly empty, so you cross the room in her direction. What do you say?
“What are you going to play?”
“Hi, my name is…”
“Can I buy you a beer?”
Some inspiration
My best friend moved to San Francisco from Boston when she was 23. For a while she was pretty shy and didn’t hook up with girls much. We went out all the time, but mostly we’d just dance and drink. Then after a few weeks every time I went to some lezzer dance club with her she’d spend half the night making out with some floozie in the corner. She told me that she’d finally figured out that girls wanted to make out with someone or they wouldn’t be there. Every woman there was pretty much standing around waiting for someone else to make a move. She decided to start making the moves and from that point on she always had a date. Lesson learned. If no one ever got up the nerve to make the first move, no one would ever get laid.
