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The Do’s and Don’ts of Writing Your Lez/Bi Dating Profile

The Do’s and Don'ts of Writing Your Lez/Bi Dating Profile

The Do’s and Don'ts of Writing Your Lez/Bi Dating Profile
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Stop rolling your eyes. It’s time to accept that online dating isn’t just for creepy old men any more. Lesbians in your area are currently logged in right now looking for dates, so come join us, won’t you? But make sure you know the rules:

1. The Bio

DO: Fill in the boxes. Because we all have to do it, so let’s just play the game. If you must, get a friend to help, or just copy and paste a few inspirational quotes you like. Just PLEASE not that horrifically overused Marilyn Monroe one.

It just makes you look like you have a personality disorder...

DON’T: Just put OHMYGODIHATETHESETHEYRESOEMBARRASING which just makes the rest of us feel like a tool for filling in our own properly.

DO: Post conversation starters, like pictures of when you met celebrities or with landmarks. Try adding the start of interesting stories you love to tell. Example: The sentence on my dating profile that gets me the most messages is “Ask me why I got banned from the gym last year."

I don't play well with treadmills...

DON’T: Over do it. Quirky is fine. 

2. The Pictures

DO: You Must Add Pictures. Because no one wants to date the Tinder stock silhouette.

I mean she doesn't even have good hair?!

DON’T: Be a Pouting-In-A-Club-In-Every-Photo lesbian. Go the hell outside. Duck Face In The Dark is not going to get dates.

DON’T: Fill your profile with pictures of your pets going about their lives. Yes, lesbians love cats. We know that. No need to use them as gay bait.

DO: If you have a picture of your pet online, you have to be in it. No feline selfies.

DO: Post pictures of you with friends, family and having fun. Like outside and stuff. Like a normal person. Over use of the “bedroom selfie” is not endearing.

DON’T: Have no solo pictures. Having to cross reference 6 group photos to figure out which woman you’re talking to is exhausting.

3. Etiquette

DO: Be careful about posting evidence of drug use online. Yes, it’s your personal life choice, but let’s not post it all over your profile like it’s supposed to be “rad."

DON’T: Drug use can be a deal breaker for some people, so make sure the potential-love-of-your-life knows if you’re a heavy smoker. Personally, I wouldn’t date a drug user, just like I wouldn’t date a lady who doesn’t like Taylor Swift. 

Because if you don’t like T-Swift, then you don’t like joy...

DO: Make the first move and send the first message. Because someone has to. And confidence is sexy.

DON’T: Do the “double text” thing. Come on. Have some dignity. If they’ve not replied, they aren’t interested… Move on.

DO: Progress at a reasonable pace. No one wants endless back and forth any more. Women online are looking to meet real life people nowadays. After a few messages, maybe suggest swapping numbers or the Facebook add? And if she’s hesitant, then she’s either not that into you, or she’s a 50 year old man. Yes, that happens.

DON’T: Simply reply to their first message with your Snapchat handle. You are not a 13 year old boy. Use your words.

Online dating takes the stress out of filtering out those first encounters. Want to know the scary part? Setting up your profile is actually the easy bit. Once you’ve done it and found yourself some nice, potential dates, that’s when the nerves kick in. So stop worrying about what to put on your profile and prepare yourself for the next step. Because meeting up with someone you could really potentially like? That’s when it becomes utterly terrifying.

About the Author: E J Rosetta is an LGBT Columnist and coffee addict living in Hampshire with her spoiled cat, Hendricks. More ramblings can be found on Facebook or via Twitter @EJRosetta

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Ej Rosetta

EJ is a gin enthusiast, cat lover and perpetually single coffee addict, who happens to have a super cool accent.

EJ is a gin enthusiast, cat lover and perpetually single coffee addict, who happens to have a super cool accent.