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Comedy

Is Confidence in a Man Sexy? Or Is It Actually a Turn-Off?

Michael Henry broaches the topic in his latest YouTube sketch!

Raffy Ermac

Digital Director, Out.com

Raffy is a Los Angeles-based writer, editor, video creator, critic, and digital director of Out Magazine. The former editor-in-chief of PRIDE, he is also a die-hard Rihanna and Sailor Moon stan who loves to write about all things pop culture, entertainment, and identities. Follow him on Instagram (@raffyermac) and Twitter (@byraffy), and subscribe to his YouTube channel.

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March 04 2021 4:47 PM EST

December 09 2022 9:12 AM EST

YouTuber and comedian Michael Henry's latest sketch is taking on a topic we don't talk about nearly enough when it comes to the gay dating scene: is having a lot of confidence sexy AF? Or is it actually a big turn-off??

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Making the case for vulnerability to his friend Josh while hanging out at the park, Michael says the reason why confidence isn't necessarily important for him when it comes to guys is that confidence is often faked and confused for other things.

"Well what do you like then?" Josh asks. "Insecure, emotionally-damaged men, like you?"

"I like men who are sure of themselves when it comes to work and life and their overall self, but I like guys who are insecure about those things too," Michael says.

"I like an assertive man! A sturdy man! A man who can achieve big things! A man who has a deep voice and a beard and a three-piece suit!" Josh then says later on in the video.

"Okay see, now that's the thing! I think that when guys say they want a confident man, that's really just code for 'I like a masculine man.' The two are not the same, honey!" Michael quips back.