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By Zachary ZaneAugust 23 2017 / 9:20 PM
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10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Dating a Shy Guy
  
I’m definitely on the "louder" side, which is just another way of saying that I’m more extroverted. I don’t mind going places alone because I know I can always meet new people. Any opportunity I have to scream at the top of my lungs, I will take. Maybe it’s because they say opposites attract, but for whatever reason, I find myself dating shyer, more introverted guys. It’s taken me a while to get used to dating them, but here are 10 things I wish I knew before dating a shy guy.
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