Popular dating app Hinge interviewed 14,000 LGBTQ+ folks to reveal some of the biggest hurdles facing queer daters in this modern age.

Hinge put together a team of Ph.D. researchers and dating experts and to unearth some of the problems facing LGBTQ+ adults in the US, a population that has nearly doubled over the last decade. As those queer folks experience their “first time” on their apps, Hinge has identified some of the sources of their nervousness.

First, Hinge Labs revealed bisexual daters are 3x more likely to have never had a queer dating experience than other LGBTQIA+ daters. They've dubbed this the "Fear of Exploration," a trepidation that makes people nervous to date because they are either uncomfortable with their identity, not out, or unsure of how to approach a romantic interest. While almost 50% of queer, bisexual, trans, and non-binary daters have never had a queer dating experience because of those anxieties, 80% of LGBTQIA+ Hinge daters are open to being someone's first queer dating experience.

Hinge also found that for trans daters, "over-communication before the date is essential to ensure their date’s goals are aligned with theirs." 71% of trans daters also have an “expectation check," where they lay out their expectations about the type of relationship they are looking for before meeting in person. The report notes trans daters are also most likely to want you to check that they made it home and text first after the date.

The report even goes into ghosting. Hinge Labs call the light version of that "fizzling" when people are hesitant to tell someone they aren't interested, so they become slower and shorter in their responses before stopping altogether. But people on the other end of that share with the report that "this behavior can be just as painful as ghosting, with a majority (90%) of LGBTQIA+ people not wanting someone to fizzle them. Daters would much rather receive a direct text."