Dating is terrifying enough without extra baggage. But, as any queer girl will tell you, we have a whole handful of additional issues to overcome when dating. Lucky us.
1. The Ex Connection
In most cities, the lesbian/bi girl scene is small and exclusive, and we’re very intertwined. Once you’re out, you’re in, but beware — the girl you’re about to go on a date with may have an ex in common with you. And there’s nothing more awkward than sitting on your first date comparing a list of ex lovers.
2. Accidental Outfit Coordination
Thanks to mass made high street fashion and trends; the amount of dates I’ve arrived to wearing almost an exact copy of my dates outfit is hilarious. We look like we’re cosplaying The Shining twins.
3. Who Pays?
Romance is still alive in queer girl relationships, but how do you set the standards on the first few dates? Letting her pay is uncomfortable and she’ll obvi feel the same. And going Dutch? Tacky. We need to find an answer to this. The barmaid is getting sick of us arguing over who’s picking up the tab.
4. Biphobia
So you’ve gone on a date with this girl and it all seems to be going well… Until she reveals her inexplicable fear of bisexuals and refuses to date anyone but a gold star. I mean PLEASE are we not over this yet?!
5. Dating Multiple People
Until you’re exclusive, it’s fair game to be dating multiple women (within reason) on a first-date basis. If you’re dating someone local using apps like Tinder and PoF, she probably is too. Not the kind of threesome anyone wants to be trapped in.
6. Who Makes The First Move?
All girls like to be chased. But if no one makes the first move, then she’ll move on. What’s a girl to do?
7. The Wingman
The amount of times I’ve been on a date and two guys have sauntered over, having decided we’re the lucky ladies they’ve set their sights on for the night is painful. Just because two women are out having drinks, doesn’t mean they’re waiting for men to hit on them. Please take yourselves back to watching football at the bar, skipping leg day and swearing about your exes.
But in the end, let’s face it, even with the issues we face … it’s better than the alternative.
About the Author: E J Rosetta is an LGBT Columnist and coffee addict living in Hampshire with her spoiled cat, Hendricks. More ramblings can be found on Facebook or via Twitter @EJRosetta
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