1. Don't be ashamed for wanting sex
Just because you and your partner are in a sex-positive relationship doesn't mean you want sex all the time. Or maybe you do. It's awesome either way! The only rule you should have is not being ashamed of your sexuality.
2. Make sure your fun time is also safe time
Safe sex is important, period. You might be trying all kinds of new things with your S.O., so don't take any dangerous risks.
3. Be vocal
Speak up about what you like and don't like. Never feel like you have to make your other half happy by not bringing up your needs/wants/concerns.
4. Try new things
You're sex positive! Great! Try ALL the things you've wanted to. Again, the only rules you should have are the ones that you keep in place for your safety and for the safety of your partner.
5. Open up your relationship
You can learn a lot from opening up your relationship. Some choose to do this only sexually, but it can also be pretty awesome to include multiple people in your relationship. The more the merrier!
6. Don't use sex as a bargaining tool
It can be a real turn on to tell your partner that you'll go down on them if they do the laundry, however, sex should never be weaponized into a bargaining chip, nor should it be a requirement. Sex is a two way street of enjoyment, no matter what side of the street you drive down.
7. Communication, communication, communication
Communication is the most important part of any relationship. Maybe you want to be open or closed with your relationship. Maybe there are things that you don't feel comfortable with. Take the time to check-in with your partner from time to time and know that you both see eye-to-eye. Communication always leads to openess and a deeper love between you both.
8. Enjoy being sex positive
If you're not enjoying sex, then you're likely not building a sex-positive relationship. If you don't like sex or aren't enjoying it as much, then don't do it. Sex doesn't have to be a mind-blowing, multi-orgasm epic. However, you should be enjoying it or else make your partner aware of your feelings.
9. Masturbation is totally healthy
Masturbation is not an off-limits rule in a relationship. It's perfectly healthy and normal to touch yourself, fantasize, and even relieve stress. You're also in sex-positive relationship, so there really shouldn't be any issues with masturbation.
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