Lesbian bed death is a thing. It sucks, and nobody wants to admit that it’s a thing, but it really, truly is. It usually happens when you’ve been dating someone for a really long time (and maybe they aren't really right for you) and you guys had A LOT of sex when you first started dating. It’s not to say that if you have a lot of sex at the beginning of a relationship, that you’ll eventually experience lesbian bed death, but you might.
Maybe you've just been in a monogamous relationship for a super long time, and the fire is totally gone. Either way, the best way to ward off LBD (ya, same as little black dress) would be to:
A. Stop dating a girl who isn’t right for you before it’s too late.
B. Try to limit the amount of sex you have right at the beginning of your relationship.
C. KNOW THE SIGNS, which we kindly outline below.
1. Someone has a lot of excuses as to why they don’t want to do it.
2. Sex is starting to feel routine and it’s getting boring; or even worse, it feels like a chore.
3. The friskiness that was once there fizzled, and nobody cares enough to try to bring it back.
4. Someone is nagging the hell out of the other, and it’s about things they used to find charming.
5. You’ve become so comfortable, that one (or both of you) gained weight. Like a lot of weight.
6. Spending more and more time apart is becoming a norm, and it feels like a relief.
7. Because you’re spending way too much time together, and you’re feeling like you need some space.
8. Nagging tiffs are turning into full-blown fights.
9. When you fall asleep, kissing, cuddling, or touching of any sort has been thrown out the window completely.
10. You (or her) are thinking about sleeping with someone else.
LBD happens to lots of lesbian couples, and if you’re with someone who is a true match for you, and you’re still in love emotionally, don’t worry— you can take steps to get the intimacy back.
But if you’re dating a douche bag who you can’t stand anymore, and isn’t fucking you anymore, tear the Band-Aid off quickly and MOVE ON! Life is too short to be with someone who isn’t making you happy.