10 Types of Sex All Gay Men Should Have in Their Lifetime

10 Types of Sex All Gay Men Should Have in Their Lifetime

There are so many different ways guys have sex with each other. There’s a lot in between the two extremes of making love to the man of your life, and having a raunchy, anonymous hookup in a bathhouse.

So here are 10 types of sex all gay/bi men should experience (at least once) at some point in their lives!

1. The first time you’ll never forget

Ohhhh, that first time you’re with a guy. You’re nervous. You’re confused. It feels so right, yet you think it’s so wrong. All the shame, joy, confusion, and pleasure amalgamating to create an overwhelming emotional overload.

2. The first time having sex with someone you really like

For many of us, the first experience we had with a man wasn’t great. Odds are, we didn’t actually like them that much. (If you did, you’re lucky!) So the first time you have sex with a man you really like (maybe even love) is a pretty phenomenal experience. You think to yourself, "Wow. This is it."

3. The anonymous/cruisy/back room/park/sauna/etc.

In my humble opinion, I think this is a rite of passage for every gay man. I think we all need to have some form of cruisy, bathhouse, and/or park experience. The fearful rush is unlike anything you’ve experimented with before.

4. That time you finally “get” bottoming

If you’re like me, the first time you bottomed you did not get what the fuss was about. I was clenching, hadn’t cleaned properly, and honestly had no idea what to do. I also remember being in a lot of pain. A few tries later, when you learn to relax, you finally get what the whole fuss is about, and it starts to feel really, really good.

5. When you have sex with someone who’s a goddamn rockstar

The first time you have sex with someone who’s f*cking great. He’s sexy. He’s energetic. He knows how to move. And he has you thinking, "What type of garbage sex have I been having for the past X years?"

6. The "I need a Grindr quickie so I can get a full night's sleep"

Who needs Ambien when you have Grindr, am I right? Those nights where you’re having trouble falling asleep, so you invite a guy over. Forty-five minutes later, you’re passed out. Sleeping like a baby.

7. The first time having sex (sober)

In order to have sex with a man the first few times, many of us had to get to a point of severe inebriation. It’s obviously very different, and a lot more special, when you first have sex with a man sober.

8. The slow, tender, lovemaking session

Makin’ love to the man you love. Life really doesn’t get much better than that.

9. The first time with someone a little kinkier

He smacks your butt hard, or he rests his hands on your throat, applying a little pressure. Your heart speeds up. You feel the rush of exploring something a little kinkier, a little more intense.

10. The threesome

Honestly, I think everyone should experience a threesome at least once, at some point in their life. We all need to learn what the fuss is about, and why two heads (pun intended) are better than one.