If you’re a girly girl, you know what it’s like to feel like The Invisible Femme. Sometimes, your feminine ways confuse other queer, and they wonder if their gaydar is malfunctioning. Often, you’re considered a tourist on the LGBT scene. But luckily, there are a few things you can wear to make sure she knows you’re on her team.

1. The thumb ring

Apparently, lez hands are a thing and — without making crude comments about short nails — your hands say a lot about your sexuality, which is where the thumb ring comes in handy. Sport a sturdy thumb ring and keep away from the flowery, sparkly nail varnish and you’ll have your hands full soon.

2. The Spice Girls choker

The SG choker crept back this year, and although we tried to fight it, it’s hard to deny that a vintage tattoo choker sets off our gaydar. Because, we need some love like we never needed love before. And if you Wannabe... Ok, this has to stop before I recite the entire Spice Girls lyric catalogue. Don’t test me … I can.

3. The bandana headband

A bandana-tied hair style is like walking in to a gay bar vagina first; it’s classic femme queer wear. If you can pull it off without looking like a member of Stooshie.

4. A denim jacket

I’m specifically leaving laid off this list as it’s too obvious, but an androgynous dark denim jacket can transform the girliest dress into the perfect femme fashion win.

5. Rolled up sleeves

Don’t ask why, but apparently, when you become a lesbian, you’re automatically required to fuck about with traditional sleeves. Whether we’re bunching our sleeves around our elbows or sporting a Shane-From-The-L-Word cap sleeved vest, not to mention the "yes, I'm using my sleeves as gloves" style, you know, where there's a hole for your thumb? Trust me, the non-conforming arm wear vibe is totally queer.

6. No handbag

Sometimes, the lack of accessory can be the clue you need. Few queer girls even own a handbag, let alone flounce about with it everyday. So, leave it at home and you can show it to her once you have her upstairs.

7. Wristbands

Whether you’re collecting your festival/gig tags or have some chunky leather wristbands, a cluttered/bohemian wrist screams, “I love labia." Because how else are we going to accessorize our wrists with all the sleeve nonsense going on?

So, chuck your diamond bracelets and hair straighteners in your handbag, then leave it at home and hit the scene, armed with all the accessories you need to queer up your femme look. Please, refrain from getting a neck tattoo or shaving your head “to look gay." Come on, we’re past that now. #FemmeAndFabulous

About the Author: E J Rosetta is an LGBT Columnist and coffee addict living in Hampshire with her spoiled cat, Hendricks. More ramblings can be found on Facebook or via Twitter.