Being young and being gay is hard enough, but combine that with living in a small, conservative town, and you have a tumultuous situation that’s far from ideal. From coming out to finding love, the struggle is REAL.
Here are 20 things only gay boys from a small town will understand.
1. The nearest Grindr profile is 89 miles away.
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2. And that profile is probably a creepy man over the age 60.
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3. Long-distance relationships are your only relationships.
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4. Everyone knows you—and everyone knows you’re gay.
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5. You’re legit the only gay person this town has ever seen.
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6. AND if by some miracle from God there is more than one gay person at your school, you’ve all already hooked up and it’s awkward.
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7. The smaller your town, the more conservative it is, which makes coming out of the closest an excruciating process.
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8. You definitely had that core group of girlfriends you could confide in.
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9. Bullying is a very real, very scary thing.
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10. Loneliness and isolation are two things you’re now an expert on.
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11. The internet is your best friend and you've built a ton of online relationships.
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12. And you long to meet your internet friends/lovers in real life.
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13. You’ve definitely hooked up in a car and/or public place because hosting someone in your house/town is IMPOSSIBLE.
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14. Nightlife is non-existent and gay clubs are a fantasy only seen on TV.
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15. Homophobia isn’t your town’s only problem: racism and sexism also run rampant.
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16. Your days are consumed by figuring out how the hell you’re gonna get out of this place.
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17. And you stress out about how complacent your friends are for potentially living there their entire lives.
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18. Driving around is your biggest social activity.
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19. That, or doing something in a field and/or woods.
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20. You do well in high school in the hopes that you can go to college far away and get the hell outta there...
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...and you eventually do! And you don't think twice about it or even bother looking back!
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