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Tammy Lynn Michaels Throws Censorship Out the Window to Set the Record Straight

Tammy Lynn Michaels Throws Censorship Out the Window to Set the Record Straight

Up until three days ago, Tammy Lynn Michaels wasn't "allowed" to talk to the press in straight terms about her break-up with rock star Melissa Etheridge. Or, so she thought. In a recent interview, Melissa Etheridge made the comment that she didn't mind if Tammy used her blog platform (Hollywood Farm Girl) to tell the world how she felt regarding their dissolution of nine years of partnership, marriage and joint motherhood to a total of four children. Tammy Lynn heard that message loud and clear and composed a blog entry that was posted on May 20, 2010.  Tammy is silent no more.

Up until three days ago, Tammy Lynn Michaels wasn't "allowed" to talk to the press in straight terms about her break-up with rock star Melissa Etheridge. Or, so she thought. In a recent interview, Melissa Etheridge made the comment that she didn't mind if Tammy used her blog platform (Hollywood Farm Girl) to tell the world how she felt regarding their dissolution of nine years of partnership, marriage and joint motherhood to a total of four children. Tammy Lynn heard that message loud and clear and composed a blog entry that was posted on May 20, 2010. Tammy is silent no more.

If appearances are accurate, then Tammy and Melissa had been having issues for some time (since the start of Melissa's new album Fearless Love).  In one part of Tammy's haiku-style post on May 20, 2010, she said: 

 

i even told you it was a break up album

and you laughed at me

you laughed and laughed

i heard fearless and i got sick

"that's your break up song with me"

i said to you

you got so angry with me, remember?

and stomped off

 

Tammy also made mention to Melissa choosing to play her guitar (which she refers to as an "hourglass-shaped wood with strings") for 10,000 fans than spend time with her wife and children. Tammy also held nothing back when in disagreement to Melissa's statement that it was a mutual split. 

Here is Tammy's blog post from May 20, 2010 in its entirety.

 

Thursday, May 20, 2010

no more censorship for me?

well, no censorship?

really, honey?

awesome.

 

things can be a long time coming

to one

and smash the hell out of

another:

hit and run

not even staying to clean up the mess

 

secrets, with-holding,

whispering to all but

the one whom holds the vows

and the toddlers

 

disappearances into the

hourglass-shaped wood with strings

never to finish a fight

never interested in clarifying,

making sense, making it right

even finishing the fight

more interested in making something rhyme

time after time after time

and later angsting that you and me, WE

it didn't work out

you evolved

you needed to be happy-

but really... you withdrew your hands

from family and intimacy

to pluck those strings more

More on next page...

\\\

(continued)

I'd rather hear 10,000 fans

screaming my name in worship

than hear my wife harp on me

about my family intimacy issues too,

you know?

which one is going to get me harder?

easy answer

 

sideswiped and left mangled

up to my eyes in toilet training toddlers

and sounds of a guitar wailing

letting me know

you would probably leave me soon

i know those heart-ache wails by now

 

i even told you it was a break up album

and you laughed at me

you laughed and laughed

i heard fearless and i got sick

"that's your break up song with me"

i said to you

you got so angry with me, remember?

and stomped off

 

so thank you for telling an interviewer

that you WON'T censor me on my blog

(i thought i was to say nothing, my bad)

i was so unhappy thinking people dare look at me

and think that i consider

a marriage and forever to be

nine years or six years or whatever

and i gave up on everything

and just walked off

never is that me... nope, never

 

cuz i did not go anywhere, honey.

and you and i both know it

please stop telling the press it was mutual-

More on next page....

\\\

(continued)

my birthday rolled around,

the holidays....

and me and the twins sat right there waiting...

we didn't go anywhere. we just

sat and waited and waited and waited and waited.....

 

"i saw you with your new friends....

you wear them so well...."

 

i think you're saying it's okay

to be more open now on this blog?

whew.

good. cuz sitting on the fence of

"speak true"

and

"say nothing"

 

fucking rides a pole so far up my ass it nearly pierces my brain, and i can't take it anymore, now that i am back home where people don't live in the smoke and mirrors.

 

oh, and don't let me forget this.

i still love that damn woman so much, i'm still trying to stop. i had a dream last where honey and i were fighting and going to get a divorce, and i woke up sobbing.... then i realized. oh. it's true. and then what do you do? when the horrible feeling in the dream gets to stay even after you wake up?

 

there. there is my truth as of today.

 

home again.

home again.

feeling true.

feeling honest.

posted by Tammy, midwestern girl/Mom | 20.5.10

 

Tammy, if you are reading this - we are listening.  Contact me: [email protected].  

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