A throuple (portmanteau of the words threesome and couple) is a three-person relationship. All three people in the relationship love and care for one another equally.

Every queer man should try a throuple at least once. Here’s why:

1. Forces you to work on jealousy issues

There is no grosser and more toxic feeling than jealousy. Being in a throuple forces you to confront your jealousy issues head on and come to terms with your own insecurities.

2. Forces you to become a better communicator 

Now it’s not just you and your man that need to be on the same page. There’s a third person. Everything needs to be clear, honest, and direct when you’re in a throuple in order for the relationship to thrive.

3. Can get different needs met by each partner 

There’s a modern notion in romance that all of our needs are going to met by one person—our “life partner.” This concept only started in the past century. (Read Aziz Ansari’s Modern Romance for more details. It’s a fun read.) This often isn’t the case. We can’t expect one person to give us everything we need, which is why it’s crucial to remain close with your friends and family members whenever you start a new relationship. But by having two partners, you are doubling the chances your needs will be met. Each partner will have strengths and weaknesses and be able to help you through different trying times. 

4. Two heads are better than one

Figuratively and literally. But focusing on the figurative, you have one more person whose opinion you respect, whose advice you trust, and whose thoughts challenge yours. 

5. Two shoulders to cry on

You get more support in those troubling times.

6. Cuddling

Not only do you have the options of big and little spoon, you have the best option of all: MIDDLE SPOON. Sandwiched between you and your men, with you as the meat in the middle.

7. Your family triples

So this is good and bad… I couldn't quite imagine Thanksgiving dinners… but enjoy all the family drama.

8. Your friend group expands exponentially 

More boyfriends mean more friends and people in your life to connect with.

9. You have an additional hand parenting 

That is, if you decide to have children.

10. The sex

I think this one is self-explanatory.