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51 Things Straight Men Need to Learn About Gay/Bi Guys  
             
   
  
Straight men, you think some things about us and do some things to us, that frankly, we don’t care for. We know that you often don’t realize how your behavior is misguided. So we’re here to help. Here are 51 things that straight men need to learn about gay/bi men.
 
 
    
 
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1. Keep your bowel movements loose

2. Eat more olive oil

3. Don’t hold in your poops

4. Make friends with aloe vera

5. Use more lube during sex than you thought possible

6. Soak in a hot bath

7. Cool it with the bottoming for a little bit

8. Give Botox a try, it's for more than just wrinkles

9. Preparation H

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