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    13 Things I Learned While Attending My First Gay Orgy

    Anonymous
    | 06/05/23

    13 Things I Learned While Attending My First Gay Orgy

    13 Things I Learned While Attending My First Gay Orgy

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    You’re probably thinking one of two things right now: “Wow, sounds sexy!” or “Wow, you’re a slut.”

    Well, I’m here to tell you that neither of those things are really true, but my experience at a planned sex party seemed like one that needed to be shared. A gay sex party is an invite-only event where like-minded people who share similar attractions gather to engage in adult fun. 

    These are definitely not the finite rules of sex parties (obviously), but this list will help give you a good idea of what you’re getting into if you accept the invitation. 

    **EDITOR'S NOTE: The writer is a trusted PRIDE contributor and asked to remain anonymous for this story. He wouldn't want future employers (or his grandma) reading about this exploit. But we couldn't let these lessons go to waste.

    You get invited, you don’t invite yourself

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Honestly, I have no idea how you find out about these things other than an invite on Grindr or a recommendation from a friend (mine was the latter).  

    You go through a pretty rigorous picture submitting process

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Okay, not that rigorous, but they do make you submit the usual head and torso pics, then make you confirm your identity by asking you to perform some sort of innocent act like writing today's date on a piece of paper and sending a pic with it. Not even so much to make sure that you’re "hot," but to make sure you fit the demographic of that party. 

    It starts very similarly to an everyday house party

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Many parties enforce a “no-clothes policy” where you must check your clothes in at the door, however, at this particular event, everyone started clothed with an open bar, mingling, music, talking...then people start making out, and you know the rest. 

    They supply everything

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Condoms, lube, poppers, full bar, snacks, water...what more can a boy want?

    No drugs allowed

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    They are strict on no drugs, no STDs, no barebacking. 

    It’s awkward, but everyone knows it’s awkward, so it’s okay

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Everyone is respectful and chatty and trying to make it as unweird as possible. 

    If your clothes are off, you’re fair game

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Once your clothes come off, it’s a bit of a free for all and it can be hard to keep track of all the bodies in the room. When it comes down to it, though, it's your body, your choice, so make sure you let the people you're playing with know what you are and aren't comfortable doing.

    You’re probably going to see someone you know

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    It’s a small, gay world out there.  

    Actual sex doesn’t actually happen that much

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    At least at this particular orgy. I can imagine it’s different elsewhere, but it was mostly 3rd base and below. 

    It’s never as sexy as you think it’s going to be

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    For as rigorous as you think the selection process is, some of the guys are just not your type, and you kinda just have to deal with it. 

    You can come and go as you want

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    They give a time span that the party goes from and you are welcome to arrive and depart whenever. 

    It’s really difficult to pay attention to who’s doing what

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    The best (and not the sexiest way) to describe the activity-taking place is a large pit of flesh. It’s hard to understand who’s doing what at any given time.

    Planned orgies are the best

    13 Things I Learned While Attending my First Gay Orgy

    Personal experience shows that showing up blind to a sexual encounter isn’t always the best. Stick to orgies where you know who’s coming so you know the participants taking place. It’s safer, it’s a bit sexier, and it’s more intimate. 

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