I’ve now had many people watch me have sex (I’m a little bit of exhibitionist). One thing I constantly hear afterwards is “holy shit that was amazing.” I’m like, “Yes, duh, thank you,” but also, “I really need to speak up more during sex.” At which point I scream, “Yes!! It’s so important." When I bottom, I’m constantly talking—telling him to go faster, slower, not to move, choke me harder, slap my ass, switch positions. That’s what makes sex fun! There’s no way he can know what you like. Even if you’re sleeping with him a bunch, your moods change! There’s no way for him to guess what you’re in the mood for.