Dating App HER Spends Lesbian Visibility Week Trolling TERFs

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A dating app primarily aimed at queer women is using their platform to take a strong stance against transphobes.

HER has been trolling TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists) hard on their Twitter account this week after users started voicing complaints that trans women are allowed and welcome on the app.

\u201cLesbian trans women exist. Lesbian trans women are not hetero males. Your transphobia has no place here \ud83d\udc4b\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682341965

\u201cA trans-inclusive lesbian is a lesbian. The end.\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682433464

\u201cReminder: Queer people don't police other queer people, Karen. Eat a snickers and stop berating trans people.\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682439457

Trans inclusion on HER is nothing new, but the increased attacks on trans people in recent years have been empowering bigots even within the queer community to lash out.

The dating app, of course, doesn’t require any queer woman to match with, speak to, or go on dates with anybody they don’t want to — trans or cis. But the TERFs seem determined to try to bully HER into denying access to trans women, even those who identify as queer themselves, and despite there being plenty of cis queer women who are just as attracted to trans women as they are their fellow cis women.

\u201cSometimes when I'm having a bad day I look at tweets from transphobes and think to myself "Thank god I'm not this stupid...... also hey it's kinda cool I get paid to make fun of transphobes..... hmm i wonder if I have any cheese" - and then I feel better. #sendcheese\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682450109

\u201c@eva_kurilova @HerSocialApp waah waaaahh an app im not being forced to use is inclusive of people I dont like..!!!! whatever will I do \ud83d\ude25\ud83d\ude25\ud83d\ude25\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682448907

\u201cHER is not a safe space for transphobes. GTFO\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682458337

The transphobes have been so angry at HER, in fact, that they got the Twitter account temporarily suspended for calling out their bullshit.

\u201c@LebkuchenFilm @HerSocialApp UHM\u201d
— Lebkuchen Short Film (@Lebkuchen Short Film) 1682534173

But rather than acquiesce to the loud demands of the few, the team doubled down and continued to make it abundantly clear that the app is inclusive. Again, this doesn’t obligate anyone to have an attraction towards or date anybody else, so the fact that it’s causing such a ruckus just goes to show how desperate some people are to cling to their bigotry.

\u201chttps://t.co/hYG3Y0jqsZ\u201d
— Maddie \ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08 (@Maddie \ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08) 1682521708

\u201cyou heard it here first!! #boycotttheherapp if you\u2019re using the term \u201clesbian\u201d as a weapon to promote transphobia and bigotry\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682478293

\u201cAnd herein lies the point. It\u2019s not enough for them to say, \u201cI don\u2019t want to date a trans woman or a non-binary person, so I\u2019ll use a different app.\u201d \n\nThey\u2019re just so utterly fucking enraged about ANYONE including trans people that they publicly soil themselves when it happens.\u201d
— Based Brenda \ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f (they/them) (@Based Brenda \ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f (they/them)) 1682523332

\u201cNobody is telling you who to sleep with. Nobody cares who you sleep with. We're telling transphobes to stop using our app to harrass and stalk trans people.\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682616574

Transphobic lesbians and those aggressively claiming to speak on behalf of lesbians have tried their best to make the word “lesbian” immediately signal the exclusion of trans people, but HER’s vicious and non-stop rebuttals to this insistence is, in part, a result of wanting to deny them that ability.

\u201cAww gee thanks. Lesbians do love us! That is, ALL lesbians. Not your terfy transphobic definition of lesbian. #GTOterfs\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682624837

\u201cTerfs refuse to believe that lesbians support other lesbians. I guess I might think that way if somebody who mattered hated me, luckily it's just conservatives who are mad we exist.\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682628061

\u201c\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\ud83c\udf08\ud83d\udc6d\ud83e\udd1d\ud83c\udff3\ufe0f\u200d\u26a7\ufe0f Lesbians have long been allies to the trans community, working together in the name of love and acceptance. Let's take a look at the history of FLINTA alliances! #LoveIsLove #TransSupport #Solidarity\u201d
— HER App (@HER App) 1682631034

“There are some, frankly, just like, hideous, overbearing, aggressive, offensive voices right now on the internet — the TERFs. And we’re fucking done with them,” founder Robyn Exton said in a video making it clear that this inclusivity is baked into the company’s DNA. “We are a platform for all lesbians. Trans lesbians, non-binary lesbians, you are all part of our lesbian community. And there’s no space for TERFs on HER.”

Is HER a legitimate dating app?

Yes! HER has been around since 2013, and was originally briefly known by the name Dattch.

Is HER free?

As with most dating apps, there is a paid premium option, but all the core features of HER are free and it's ultimately not necessary to pay for access to any additional features.