15 Things Queer Women Should STOP Doing Before The End of 2015

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New year, new you, right? 

However, instead of looking forward to the year ahead, we’d like to look back on some of the less than appealing things you did in 2015, and vow to put an end to them. Because on January 1st, we’ll officially be closer to 2020 than we are to 2010, which is not only insane but also a reminder that you’re only getting older, and you need to continue cutting out all your bad habits.

15. Stop thinking you can’t be “that girl”.

You can be that girl with the rad girlfriend. You can be that girl who loves their body. You can be that girl who loves working out. You can be that girl who is truly happy. You can.

14. Stop browsing social media for an hour before bed.

It’s not only terrible for your eyes, it’s terrible for your brain, it keeps you from sleeping, and it reinforces the habit of obsessing over social media, which we all could use a bit of a break from by now.

13. Stop spending money on things you can’t afford.

Which, as we all know, is easier said than done, but the sooner you get a grip on your finances, the sooner big-girl adult steps like moving in with a significant other, buying a car, having a real savings, and taking jet setting trips, will be attainable.

12. Stop eating and drinking things that don’t make your body feel good.

If you’re allergic to things you continue to eat, drink alcohol so much that it makes you sick, try and use these last few days of 2015 make yourself a plan to take these substances out of your life. Most of your health/well-being starts in your gut, so the sooner you make your gut happy, the happier you’ll be.

11. Stop saying it’s inconvenient for you to recycle.

The biggest long-term threat is climate change and if you still don’t believe that, I’m going to just chalk that up to you were a terrible student in your science class, and you’ve continued to not care about learning after you left school. Recycling isn’t difficult for you. Get it done and do your part to save our planet!

10. Stop NOT voting.

Yes the electoral college is who decides who the president will be, but they’re SUPPOSED to vote based on popular vote. So fucking vote, and stop saying your vote doesn’t matter. IT MATTERS.

9. Stop buying fast fashion clothing.

When something isn’t American made, that means the labor has been exported in order to save cost. So instead of a person getting a reasonable salary, health benefits, job safety and security, your shirt was made by someone who could be getting paid only $2 a day in incredibly dangerous conditions. If you care at all about social justice, you’ll stop.

8. Stop buying shit you don’t need.

It’s wasteful to buy things you don’t need, especially if you’re only going to donate or throw it away in the next year. If you don’t need that t-shirt, that mug, or that food item, don’t buy it.

7. Stop being afraid of making queer friends.

I’ve heard from so many queer women that the lesbian community is a cliquey bitch, and although that may be (sorta) true, that doesn’t mean you should try. Reach out to women on dating sites for a meet up, start going to queer events around your area, but more than anything, start introducing yourself! A smile and handshake go a long way.

6. Stop reaching out to people who always flake.

Not only will this save you time and energy getting ready for something that you ultimately won’t do since your friend flakes, it will also very easily cut a friend out of your life who clearly doesn’t appreciate or respect your friendship all that much.

5. Stop saying yes to plans where people you won’t have fun with will be.

You aren’t being immature because you don’t want to be around certain people, you’re being honest and authentic with yourself, which is called being MATURE. So if you know there are some people who just rub you the wrong way at an outing you’ve been invited to, just politely say no.

4. Stop being friends with people who don’t get you.

If you’re keeping around friends who make you feel bad about yourself, are incredibly narcissistic or hate all of the things you love AND you don’t know why you’re still friends, then there’s no reason to still be friends with them. Pick out all the bad seeds in your life, because you don’t need them.

3. Stop ghosting people when you don’t want to be friends with them anymore.

It’s incredibly fucked up to ghost people instead of explain why you aren’t trying to hang anymore, plus it’s immature. Text them, confront what’s going on, and hold true to the fact that you don’t want your friendship to continue. It’s scary, but it’s not that hard.

2. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

You’re a beautiful, amazing and need to stop the childish, self-hating, negative voice in your head that compares you to others. Start ditching that voice, and let the positive, confident, empowered voice take over!

1. Stop dating women who aren’t good for you.

You should never feel like you can’t talk about your sexual history or the fact that you find other women attractive. You shouldn’t be required to give your GF your phone password or the passwords to all your social media. Having an unhealthy and dependent relationship is terrible for both parties, and the older you get, the more you’ll understand this. Figure out what you want in your woman, and don’t settle for anything less in 2016!

Briana lives and works in San Francisco with her girlfriend and their two pugs (Irie + Tootzy). Follwer her on Twitter and Instagram to see what hilarity she finds herself in next.