In what can only be described as one of the greatest love letters of our generation, a straight, cisgender, 11th grade teenager asked Reddit users for advice on how to ask out a 17-year-old transgender girl at his school.
He worries he’ll be ridiculed for asking her out (or as he puts it, "afraid of social suicide"), but he can’t get her out of his mind. He’s simply head over heels in love and wants to engage in some large display of affection that she’ll remember for the rest of her life.
At the time of publishing, the post has over 1,600 upvotes and nearly 500 comments. The original post, excluding the title where he asks for advice, has now been removed. (It’s unclear why the comment was removed or deemed inappropriate.)
The top voted responses have been of unconditional support and encouragement. Multiple Reddit user, including Jakabab, noted that the fear the OP (original poster) has for asking her out is only a fraction of the fear she experiences on a daily basis:
"This this this. I think it's so innocent and profound what your little brother said. And honestly, what your fears are and what you're describing, those are only probably 1/20th of the fears and worries this girl had to confront this society and declare who she was. So now that you've seen a peak [sic] into that, you also get to decide the kind of person you want to let the world know you are."
Another Reddit user wrote:
"Your little brother is a sweetheart." They continued, "I dunno. Yeah there's a real risk of being bullied and harassed for dating a trans person but whatever you get, I'm sure it'll be a fraction of what she experiences on a daily basis. I think you should take things one step at a time and don't disclose anything to others without checking in with her first. A big public gesture might be romantic but she might not want more attention to be drawn to her."
The OP responded to this comment, saying, "This is good advice. So no flowers at school, but if I ask her out on a date and she says yes, when I go to pick her up should I bring flowers? It seems cheesy to bring flowers to her door. I don't want to be seen as cheesy, yet at the same time I REALLY want to get this girl some damn flowers!"
After consulting with other various Reddit users, the OP has learned that at his age, it’s okay to be cheesy, and he absolutely plans to ask her out. Many commenters have asked him to follow up with the details, which hopefully, the OP will be sure to do!
Check the entire Reddit thread right here! Get ready for your heart to melt.