The Talk’s out cohost Sara Gilbert commented on the pressure for people like actress Maria Bello  and Olympic diver Tom Daley to come out before they’re outed by the media. Gilbert also spoke of the pressure to label oneself as either or gay or straight, although both Bello and Daley (who both came out this past week), came out as in same-sex relationships while eschewed fixed labels.

Watch Gilbert and The Talk panel below.