Anyone else ever get "ghosted" by a girl? Or is that just me? You think it’s going well and then suddenly it’s all over. No explanation, not even a swear-y, insulting text message. And it get’s our minds racing, right?

Well, here are some reasons she didn’t get back to you, and here’s the good news. It’s not you... It’s her.

1. She’s Insecure

Meeting you was terrifying. You’re confident and charming and lovely and it just made her feel rubbish. Well done, you, for being such an awesome and intimidating force. Now go find someone who can match you.

2. You’re Hotter Than Her

You know what, a lot of girls need to be the “prettiest” in the relationship or they’re a jealous mess. You don’t want to be with someone like that, anyway. If you met online and she didn’t realize quite how show-stoppingly stunning you’d be in person, that’s not your problem. You rock.

3. Yours Are Bigger

As above, some girls get a Napoleon complex. I have a friend who won’t date a woman with bigger boobs than her because she feels like it’s her best attribute. You don’t need that sort of insecurity in your life. Her loss.

4. She’s Femme, You’re Femme

A lot of lesbians still believe in gender roles and want to be with a stud/butch or vice versa. For some, it’s all about image but that’s SO not what we’re about. If she’s all about how you look together and not how you feel together then it was doomed from the start.

5. An Ex Connection

She hasn't told you, but you have an ex in common. That’ll teach you for mentioning your ex on the first date. Yes, we all do it. Yes, we have to stop.

6. Facebook Frights

Your social media persona may be different to your real life one. Maybe she liked you in person, but was a little taken aback by all the rambling statuses and pictures of your cats on there? I have a “Women I Fancy” list on my Facebook where I put anyone I’m dating. They don’t need to see pictures of me in the bath with my cat. That’s not OK.

7. You Swear Too Much

I swear like a f**king sailor. Some people aren’t in to that, but are too polite to say. So, stop f**king doing it.

8. She Doesn’t Get Sarcasm

Sometimes, my sarcasm is so advanced it seems like I’m serious. Maybe save the snarky remarks for date number three when she’s already moved in and has to put up with you.

9. You’re Dressed Wrong

Yes, some people are just that shallow.

10. She’s Biphobic

I’m bisexual. And it rocks. But tell a "Gold Star" lesbian this and she gets a bit snobby. Not all, but some. But don’t ever change. If she wants to be judgemental and misunderstand the complexity of sexuality then that’s her problem.

11. She’s High Maintenance

She’s too much hard work and you had to make all the conversation. She’s high maintenance. Tolerating this kind of person is like putting your hand in to boiling oil for a prolonged period of time. Let it go. (Ha, and now that song will be in your head all day).

12. She’s Back With Her Ex

It happens. It’s no reflection on you. Give them a sarcastic thumbs up and move on.

13. She’s Just Not That In To You

Sometimes there is no explanation. The chemistry just wasn’t there and she’s too chicken to tell you so. And good riddance, go find someone worth your time.

Dating is a minefield and can make you want to go hide in a pillow fort with a bucket of chicken and a box of tissues, but don’t give up! Sometimes, it’s not you. It’s her. And completely her loss.

About the Author: E J Rosetta is an LGBT Columnist and coffee addict living in Hampshire with her spoiled cat, Hendricks. More ramblings can be found on Facebook or via Twitter @EJRosetta